Anxiety Therapy for Perfectionists in Ridgewood, NJ

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Always being the one who “has it all together” is a lot to carry.

It’s like you can never RElax.

You’re tired of being the ‘responsible one’ all the time.

You’ve always taken pride in being capable, dependable, and hardworking. From the outside, your life looks fine — even successful. But internally, the pressure to keep it all together, do it right, and avoid disappointing anyone is quietly draining you.

Whenever you accomplish something, it feels good… but only for a moment. Almost immediately, your mind skips to the next task, the next goal, the next way you “should” be doing more. It’s exhausting.

You’re constantly putting yourself last. Your relationships are starting to suffer because you’re afraid to set boundaries, say no, or risk disappointing someone. Resentment builds — but so does guilt.

You hold yourself to impossibly high standards and fixate on the ways you’re falling short. No matter how much you do, it rarely feels like enough. And the harder you try to keep everyone happy, the more disconnected you feel from your own needs.

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Does this sound like you?

Haunted by the “what if I fail and everyone sees” voice in your head?

Ready to stop overthinking every little thing and just choose already?

Done with procrastinating and maybe (just maybe) ready to roll with some change?

Wishing you didn’t feel so stuck in your own head all the time?

HERE’S WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER

  • Understand what’s really fueling your anxiety — it’s more than just work or school stress.

  • Set goals that feel right for you—not just what’s expected of you. We’ll also work on making your relationships feel less draining and more supportive.

  • Loosen that “all or nothing” mindset so you can move through life with more flexibility and less stress

  • Spend less time overthinking every decision and start actually trusting yourself (yes, you do know what you’re doing—most of the time).

Imagine a life where…

  • You speak up without second-guessing yourself and set boundaries that actually stick and your relationships feel way less exhausting.

  • Everyday stuff (like work and errands) doesn’t feel so overwhelming, and you’re not constantly dreading your to-do list.

  • You feel more in tune with yourself—you actually get what you’re feeling instead of guessing.

  • Your past isn’t running the show anymore. It’s still there, but it’s not calling the shots 24/7.

If you’re ready to stop managing
everything on your own, therapy can help.

Change is possible.

Let’s talk.

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QUESTIONS?

FAQS

  • Many women are socialized to put others first and aim for high standards, which can lead to people-pleasing and perfectionism. These patterns can affect work, relationships, and self-care. Therapy and self-compassion strategies can help women set boundaries, reduce stress, and build healthier habits.

  • It might be a problem if you have a hard time relaxing, often worry about what others think, or feel guilty when you say no. Many people see being responsible or easygoing as positives, but when those habits start to cause stress, burnout, or resentment, it can be a sign that they’re taking too much of a toll.

  • Yes. Therapy can help you understand where those patterns come from, such as early experiences, fear of rejection, or high expectations. In sessions, you can learn how to set healthy boundaries, manage anxiety, and quiet your inner critic. Over time, you’ll feel more comfortable making choices that reflect your own needs and values instead of always trying to meet everyone else’s expectations.

  • In therapy, we look at your thought patterns, emotions, and behaviors that keep you stuck in a cycle of trying to do everything right. You’ll learn practical tools to manage stress, communicate more openly, and give yourself permission to make mistakes. The goal isn’t to stop caring about others, but to find a balance where you can care for yourself too.

    If you’re ready to start letting go of the pressure to be perfect and find a more balanced way of caring for yourself and others, reach out here to see if we’d be a good fit to work together.